Brendan. FemDom Q&A

Brendan: I am interested in femme-dom.

Missy: Why do you like fem-dom?. Can you go back to pin point where that interest actually started, what created it?

Brendan: I think it started with that relationship, or that was when I first recognised I liked it. I am not particularly interested in all the dressing up and role playing that goes with it, but I like to please a woman who knows what she wants.

Missy: So my summary  of that is that you like confident woman, because then you can execute exactly what they want, and lessen your chance of failure and therefore rejection. What do you think? If they're not confident and aren't brave enough to tell you what they want, do you then lose interest? .

Brendan: Partially agree. I like women who know what they like sexually and are able to express it to direct activities to maximise their pleasure. That turns me on immensely. Having said that, when I come to know a woman, even a submissive one, and know what triggers her pleasure, that also turns me on. So I don;t lose interest until they lose interest. If they are clearly not into it then neither am I and my erection will die.

I'll tell you a bit about an affair I had with a married woman which started back on '01 and went all the way through until sometime in '07.

Missy: Where you married at the time?

Brendan: Not when that relationship started. She was a little dominant in that she knew what she liked, and she would tell me what she wanted me to do during sex. She also loved to fuck my arse with a strap-on, it was one of the shared kinks that brought us together in the first place.

Missy: Did you ever ask her why she liked it?
Brendan: No, I just assumed she liked it because she derived pleasure from it so I didn't dig. She would get so wet while doing it and somehow she knew when I was about to come and would slip out of the straps while still keeping the dildo in place inside me and bend down and take my cock deep into her mouth for my orgasm.

Missy: Interesting, so it wasn't about actual intercourse?Brendan: Actual intercourse played a big part in our relationship, we engaged in that probably 90% of the time also. The above fun about 50% of the time. One time she rang me and demanded I come to her place asap - she was very horny. I found her on the bed in doggie with a double pronged dildo inserted anally and vaginally. I was immediately hard so got out of my clothes very quickly and fucked her arse, as she wanted. She came very fast. Very intense. We had a lot of fun together, not least of which was because we had feelings for each other, and I was very sad when it ended. She is the lady in some of my pics.

Missy: Why did it end?
Brendan: I took part in a 3some that she had not previously approved, even though she had approved in theory and she had been sleeping with someone else. She basically did not like this particular couple.

Missy: why spanking?
Brendan: I guess I see spanking as a next step on that road, even though pain doesn't excite me.

Missy: Do you think the spanking represents a part of your brain that thinks you need to be punished for thinking like that?

Brendan: I don't know exactly, but I think it's more about how excited the act makes the domme. It's also about being exposed and vulnerable that makes it exciting rather than the punishment. For some reason I just don't feel the guilt that I'm supposed to (supposedly) and so don't really feel the need for punishment per se.